Romantik Romanların İlişkilere Faydaları: Seks Eğitimi ve Daha Fazlası

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Romantik roman okumak, tüm ilişki türlerini iyileştirebilir. Bu ay, seks eğitimcisi Varuna Srinivasan, seks ve duygular arasındaki derin bağlantıları keşfediyor. Bu ay, romantik roman okumanın faydalarını derinlemesine inceliyor. Dr. Srinivasan’a bir sorunuz veya hikaye fikriniz mi var?
Scrolling through #booktok one recent evening, I came across something rare: a popular trend for couples that actually made me want to participate. The “BookTok Boyfriend Challenge” involves people (mostly women) asking their partners (mostly men) to recreate a scene from their favorite romance novel to see if the moves work IRL. Reenactments include leaning on a door frame, whispering sweet nothings into your partner’s ear, throwing them over your shoulder before running out of the room, and stroking their chin as you stare deep into their eyes.
For some creators, like Hannah, who asked her husband to romantically lean on the doorframe next to her, the result was better than expected. “Feeling flustered 🥵” she wrote on top of the video that ends with her giggling and blushing like a giddy teenager. But like one commenter said, sometimes, what happens in a book should stay in a book. This video with 1.3 million shows a sequence of failed attempts by other couples trying to act out certain cringey scenes. (I guess some of us don’t want our partners growling in our faces.)
All of this is, at least partially, thanks to a recent surge in romance book sales among Gen Z. To be fair, the genre is already quite popular, accounting for almost 23% of all books sold worldwide. It’s considered one of the biggest and oldest genres, dating back to medieval times (think courtly romances, knights in shining armors, and pastoral romances in ancient Spain). But with this surge in popularity has come increased censorship and criticism. Romance authors and the books under the category often face unfair scrutiny about whether their work counts as “real” literature and if they perpetuate false ideologies about romance.
Nancy, a Gen Z romance novel enthusiast who loves the video trends as much as the books, disagrees with people who say these books create unrealistic portrayals of love. “If anything, knowing this love exists in books helps me raise my standard when it comes to men,” says the 24-year-old doctor from Mumbai. While the romance novel industry remains dominated by white authors and stories about cis characters in heterosexual relationships, it is possible to find diverse representation—and people love reading books that reflect their own experiences. Ava Rani is a South Asian romance novelist who often centers South Asians as the main protagonists in her stories. “I often get feedback from people who have grown up around the idea that romantic love is secondary,” she says. “For a long time, ‘romance’ was largely women marrying for the benefit of men and their lives.” The author has found that her work, and other modern romance novels that show varying stories, allow women to access deeper parts of themselves. “I am grateful to be a part of shifting that narrative,” she adds.
And while there is a common misconception that only women read romance books, a good number of men and non-binary folks also enjoy the genre to help them connect with different parts of themselves. Harsh, a 38-year-old lawyer from India, credits romance novels with helping him be more expressive as a partner. “It has taught me how to be creative with your partner,” he says. “It’s helped me to connect [with them] mentally, emotionally, physically.”
While about how these spicy novels have helped women feel more empowered in sexual situations, many people I spoke to for this column said they’ve also improved all aspects of their relationships—both romantic and platonic. Here, they share some of their stories.
A tool to advocate for your needs While there is the outdated idea that women mainly read these books to escape, or fill the void of romance in their lives, many books offer a portal for people to advocate for themselves—and not just in terms of mixing things up in the bedroom. This genre, like any other, helps readers use the stories of the characters to reimagine a new world for themselves. Jessica O’Reilly, a Toronto-based sexologist, has found that her clients read novels as a way to spark curiosity. “Romance novels can help identify desires you didn’t know you had, including those that are outside of your regular identity or comfort zone,” she emphasizes.
For Tina, a 29-year-old lawyer from Los Angeles, the popular A Court of Thorn and Roses romantic fantasy series was life changing. “The series’ focus on female empowerment and character development taught me to choose better, and really made me realize how bad my ex-boyfriend was,” Tina says. She remembers just how uninterested her then-partner was when she tried to share details of the book. “When he didn’t say anything, I hung up, then called him back and broke up with him.”
Romantik roman okumak, sadece eğlenceli olmakla kalmaz, aynı zamanda kişisel gelişime de katkıda bulunabilir. Bu tür romanlar, okuyuculara kendi ilişkilerini ve isteklerini daha iyi anlamaları için bir fırsat sunar. Karakterlerin duygusal yolculukları, okuyucuların kendi duygularıyla yüzleşmelerine ve daha sağlıklı sınırlar çizmelerine yardımcı olabilir. Ayrıca, romantik romanlar, kadınların güçlenmesi ve kendilerine olan güvenlerinin artması için bir araç olabilir. Bu tür hikayeler, kadınların kendi arzularını keşfetmelerine ve kendilerini daha iyi ifade etmelerine yardımcı olabilir. İlişkilerde daha açık iletişim kurmak, karşılıklı saygı ve anlayış geliştirmek için romantik romanlar ilham verici olabilir. Unutmayın, romantik romanlar sadece bir kaçış yolu değil, aynı zamanda kendinizi daha iyi tanımak ve daha tatmin edici ilişkiler kurmak için bir araç olabilir.

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